Our adoption Story - Kyrgyzstan

Just thought you would like to know that I posted some photos of Kyrgyzstan in my media files.

I'll be adding links and some country information soon.

It's been a rough few weeks here at home. Tensions are high, expectations low and a general sentiment of disappointment. We failed to complete our adoption from Vietnam after a year of waiting. I have blogged the whole thing across two blogs (one personnel and the other adoption related). You would think that after a year I'd be ready to throw in the towel and head for barefoot and pregnant status. But I'm not that easily pushed into the bushes!

(I can't think of anything more repulsive than being pregnant again - you might find this shocking but it is how I feel about my body... not anyone else’s. However wouldn’t trade my daughter for anything in the world and I am happy had her.)

When we got the news that Vietnam was a dead end for us, we knew it was coming, but it was still a shock. It was like the sun had set on our hopes and dreams. But Chris stood fast and brought me back to reality... Vietnam is not the only place in the world.  We started by begging our agency to find us another program that would accept us but they hadn't a single working program that would. We are now in the position of leaving an agency we love and have made, in many ways, a part of our family.

Once the initial separation anxiety gone, we started to scour the internet for a new option. We have a few special criteria for agencies and countries so many were excluded in advance. First we wanted to be able to choose the sex of our child. We want a boy; we already have a girl and don't see the need for another right now. Second, after some really really long conversations, we want a child from Asia. With physical traits as close as possible to my brother (Korean/Indian) & Christophe's Sensei (Vietnamese). We have a deep love for Asia in all its forms and we want to adopt a child that wouldn't feel so completely different in our family.

Many Asian countries wouldn't have us but we came across a few articles about old soviet provinces close to Mongolia, China and Eastern Russia. Notably, Kyrgyzstan. A country, until now I had forgotten and ignored. After some research we feel like this may just be the culture that would fit our family. The children don't look like Vietnamese children at all, but the mix of Mongolian, Russian and Kurd does have some resemblance to my brother's unique traits. A detail I am particularly sensitive to.

It is now with great hope and desire that we move forward with our adoption, but this time we are more tempered and ready for the unpleasant possibilities. I want this one to stick... but I will be ready this time if it doesn’t. In any case, if Kyrgyzstan shows any signs of trouble... I'm not sticking around this time. Burnt once... not twice.