Our adoption Story - Kyrgyzstan

OK, so we are back from vacation and all is well (Or, as good as expected after 2 weeks with the mother in law)
We have thought a lot about the little boy and were hoping for some more information about him upon our return but alas ... NO. For the moment he is in the orphanage and awaiting his social worker visit to insure that he is indeed legally cleared for adoption. Therefore, all of his medical records remain secret for the moment. Until we know more about his condition we can't consult with doctors and we can't know if this is something that we can assume. Trust me, my thoughts go far beyond finance, emotion education or duress. I want my children to have normal lives and since he is adopted, normal is already not an option. But the least I can do is offer my son something that looks like normal.

Funny how you wish and prey for a referral and the day it comes in you find yourself asking questions you would be ashamed of uttering in public. I know that we have made the right choice about thise little boy. Now all we have to do is wait to know more. Then we will be able to make our choice official and public.

On a more fun note, I have done lots of different things while waiting throughout the adoption process. Everything from folding paper cranes to building wooden toys. But I haven't bought any clothes, bedding or nusery stuff. Recently we have been talking about names. We used to want Xavier...but Chris dosen't like the way I say the name (His French and sensitive to silly stuff like that). Over the weekend, while looking at the litte boy's photo we both came up with another name we both like... and suddenly the boy seemed less like a photo and more like ... well something else and clearly over sensitive and hopeful.

We came up with Yago (Iago/Jago), the name is from Spain for "Jacob".
Our daughter is Kirsten, a name from Sweadish for "Christine"

I don't want a French or American name for any of my children. I love both cultures and countries, it's just a personal taste thing.

Oh... if only I knew more then I would have more to write.

Things are moving at last. We got the good news about our dossier on thursday and friday we were off on vacation. Chris, Kitty and I drove a grulling 7 hours from England to St. Malo France for a 2 week break. Lucky enough for us there was some serious sunshine awaiting our arrival. We played some golf, visited with family and relaxed as a family. This morning we dropped Kitty off at her grandmothers and now we are in Paris for a 4 day lovers weekend.

It's nice to have some time alone, one on one, to reflect on recent events. Since the agency doesn't have any new news for us about the little boy we may wish to adopt (we are waiting for further medical exams to be done) the best thing to do is to relax and enjoy the calm... if possible.

Tonight, dinner with friends and no adoption or Kitty talk! (I don't know how long I will be able to hold out but I'm gonna try!)

The last few months of our adoption have been turbulent to say the least. Bad news after Bad news fell upon us like English rain. All day, all night, every day. Recently we were at the bring of total despair and almost ready to give up. But then the impossible happened... Where a door was shut a window opened.

At last, a ray of new hope entered our lives. We found a way to finish our dossier without the missing FBI clearance (a document which proved impossible to get)

As of this moment our dossier is off for translation! In a matter of days it will be done. Then back to us here in the UK where we will finish the details of Certification and legalization. Then off to Kyrgyzstan.

And I must add a touch of serendipity to the story... There may be a TINY chance that we can already be matched with a, minor special needs, baby Asian boy. There are details to consider and insure before making any happy proclamations...most importantly if he is still available or not!

Most of these details I may not choose to blog... not at least until things are more "official". And even then, we have been through the ringer lately and although I want to remain positive... we must remain calm and cautious.

(secretly I am praying that this special child will be OUR child and that there is actually light at the end of this tunnel! I'm doing a little happy Chandler dance now that no one is looking... )

We decided to send the dossier to the agency for translation while we wait for the FBI check to arrive.

We are still having problems with the USCIS and out I 171H. Clearly there is some sort of misscommunication going on. A simple change of country shouldn't be so difficult but recently it has become our most troublesome problem. Neither our agency nor the USCIS here in London can agree on what needs to be done.

In a few days we will be on vacation. I hate leaving things undone! I only hope that these lastbits work out soon. I really need to feel like something is going right!